BE BIG, BAD, and BOLD Right Now!!!

Ladies, you all know what time it is.  Its time to claim your rightful place in today's world.  That means no more excuses and no more half-stepping.  Not claiming your GOD given right to go after your destiny is no longer an option.

As I write this blog every week, I am amazed by the number of BIG GIRLS who personally write me to thank me for helping them overcome their greatest fear...themselves.  I know what its like to watch others do BIG things from afar and wish that was me.  You know what changed all that?  I made a decision that I was going to follow my heart and go after my dreams.

My age, my race, my gender no longer matter and will never stop me from being a BIG GIRL on a mission.  Its all about me doing what's best for me and that is achieving dreams that I thought long ago died in my heart but it didn't.  It just required me to be fearless.  I meant me stepping up to the plate and believing in myself.

That is all that I had to do.  Just be me and go after all that I ever wanted.  When I turned 33, I started blogging hard, working harder on my business and showing people what's possible in this life.

My advice to all of you..

1.  Stop talking about it, BE about it.  No more talking a good game.  Actually step up to the plate and take the first step towards     living your life on your terms.

2.  Get over yourself.  Life is a magnificent, beautiful journey.  Until you actually live it, you are just wasting time.

3.  Get rid of the haters in your life.  If the people around you aren't grinding and supporting your growth, they are keeping you from your destiny.

4.  Know that no matter how BIG the obstacle, RECOGNIZE that it can be overcome with faith and actually believing in yourself.

5.  GO BIG OR GO HOME.  Just be BOLD and just do it!!!

As I said before, I speak from experience.  I went from being a disgruntled attorney who hated her life to actually LOVING the life I am living.  I have been on television and in the papers because I made a decision that my goal was to get press and push my business to the next level.  Everyday I feel blessed that I stepped off the rat wheel and chased my dreams.  Nothing stops me for I never look back and I don't think twice.  I just keep moving forward.

You can do it too.  Dare to be BIG, BAD and BOLD right now!!!  I am behind you 100%.  Let's do this in 2012!!!

Unlocking Your Destiny...

There was a time in my life where I felt utterly lost.  I just couldn't seem to get myself on the right track and I believed I was a loser.  Most of my friends had great jobs, were getting married in exotic locations, having children, and living lives I desperately envied.  I kept thinking that something was wrong with me and I was a failure.  After all, I went to a great college, graduated from law school and was living in New York City.  What gives?

In my early 30s, I started reading self help books and came away with a new understanding.  I was constantly comparing myself to other people and in doing so, I was causing myself great heartache.  I started to realize that there is only one me and that it was up to me to create the life that I wanted.  I didn't have to envy others and have the same things they had.  GOD had created only one Precious Williams and I was to be unlike any other person in history.

At first, I was hesitant to make any real decisions or changes in my life.  It wasn't that I was comfortable with where I was, it was just that I was frightened with the thought that what if I tried new things and failed.  Then, I considered that I was not getting any younger and that NOW is the only time that mattered.  Not yesterday, not the future, but NOW.  NOW, I can change my life for the better.  NOW, I could be the women I always knew that I could be.  NOW, I was getting my mojo back!!!

Can I tell you how freeing it is to live life on my terms?  I awakened from my slumber and had a vision for my life that I never had before.  I had a boldness and fire within that made me a force to be reckoned with in the world.  I started writing this blog.  I became an an entrepreneur.  There was nothing that was not within my grasp.

Unlocking your destiny begins with your willingness to start anew.  The key is to to dream big and to think on a level that most people cannot even handle.  The comparisons with others or even celebrities has to stop immediately.  You are you and you are wonderfully made as you are.  Just as there is one Oprah, Beyonce, Queen Latifah and Hillary Clinton, there is only one you!!!

The greatest gift I have had on this journey is learning how to love myself, thoroughly and completely.  The more I put myself and my talents in the world, the more love I am getting back in return.  Unlocking my destiny began with a willingness to be a better me.  You can do this too.

Unlock your destiny...your future begins today...

Oh, How the Tables Have Turned!!!

If you have been reading my blog for awhile, then you would know that this year has been quite a journey for me.  After living a mediocre life for the past few years, something had to give.  I had to live the life I dreamed of...a life on my terms.

My vision of success lied in me refusing to be average, random or ordinary.  So January 22, 2012, I made the decision that it was now or never.  My life had to mean something and I had to embrace the woman within.

I ended friendships that were no longer friendly.  I decided that being a lawyer was no longer an option.  I became an entrepreneur.  I started writing this blog as a way for me to share my growth with all of you.

In all my growing, I didn't realize that my greatest battle still lied within.  My ability to survive a broken heart was tested last week.  This relationship tested my very will to live.  I loved this man.  But this same man abused, mistreated and disrespected me.  I wasn't thin enough.  I wasn't smart enough.  I wasn't cool enough...to keep him by my side.  After two years of pathetically throwing myself at him, I finally had to let him go.  It was hard and I thought I had licked it...until he wanted to see me.

My friends and family advised against it.  My mind told me no.  My heart said "please, one last time."  My heart won out.  But I was so scared he would point out the fact that I had gained weight.  I was scared that he would tell me I was no longer attractive.  I was scared that he would tell me once and for all I was never on his level or good enough to be on his arm.

Wouldn't you know it?  The tables hard turned my friends!!!!  When I saw him, he no longer was Mr. Swagger!!!  He was no longer fly!!!  He was thinner and had a look of defeat.  He no longer had any money.  He was not working.  He was rather pitiful.

He spent more time telling me he was proud of me.  Me?  Me?  Me?  Yes, me.  He was proud that I was an entrepreneur.  He was proud that I followed my dreams.  I actually felt him look at me differently.  Gone was the look that "I can do better."  It was replaced by "wow, you are on it, Precious."

The moral of the story is that I had changed.  I wasn't pathetic.  I was a new person.  I wasn't broken-hearted.  I was different.  I had grown into myself.  I loved myself and I would no longer tolerate his bullsh### and lies.  He couldn't hurt me anymore.

His day of reckoning had come.  The very things he said to me years earlier were now being said to him.  He was no longer the greatest thing that happened to me.  He was just another experience in my life.

I now know what it means to survive and thrive.  I learned that my self-love is greater than any love on this earth.  There is nothing wrong with me.  I am beautiful and its about time I knew that.

Do know that one day, the tables will turn.  I promise...

Girls, you know what time it is.  Get right on the inside.  No man is worth your happiness.  No person should be able to make you feel less than.  You are wonderful and wonderfully made.  Love yourself...it is truly the greatest love of all!!!

The Best Light for the Journey...

As you all know, I am on a personal quest this year to go after all my dreams.  I am fearless and determined to be successful as a writer, producer, entrepreneur and on-air talent. 

It's so funny that when I made this decision, all kinds of craziness came my way.  People from my past reappeared.  Situations that I thought I had handled flared up again. Sometimes, my insecurities got the better of me.  I kept asking myself why is all of this happening?  I then realized that as soon as I became clear about what I am doing, these situations were put in my life to see if I have what it takes to stay the course.

First, the man I am madly in love with, who is bad for me, just reappeared in my life with a vengeance.  He didn't apologize for his absence and just acted as if I should be grateful he is back.  On one hand, I am so happy to have him back in my life.  On the other hand, I have played this game before and lost a number of times.  He is my Goliath and at this point, if I am to move forward, he must be slayed.  So I just decided that we will no longer be seeing each other no matter how bad I want to see him.  We will no longer be talking because it makes me an emotional wreck.  I feel good about this decision and hopefully, I can stick to making it happen. 

Secondly, I made the decision this year to no longer perform legal work or hold myself out to be an attorney.  I feel so good about this decision because I no longer feel tied to just being what my degree says that I am.  Wouldn't you know it that a few big cases, worth a lot of money, have come my way?  At first, I was ready to jump right in and put my lawyer cap on but on further reflection, that is not the path I am on anymore.  I am chasing my dreams and being an attorney is not one of them.  Moving on...

Thirdly, I had some friendships that I terminated because of disloyalty, disrespect and abuse.  I made it clear that I would no longer engage in these relationships but some people are persistent in trying to get my attention now that they see that I am making a name for myself.  They can't seem to apologize enough but I am so over it!!!  I don't need validation and affection from those who I was never a priority for when we were friends.  I have truly let these relationships go and plan on keeping it that way.

So what does all this mean?  I figure it means that I am growing as a woman, a strong woman at that.  I hope that my life experiences have illuminated the way for others.
Moving on is hard but so worth it.  I feel free in a way that I have never experienced before.  What used to hold me back is now fuel for my fire.  I tell the world everyday, get ready, 'cause I am coming!!!

Don't let yourself get caught up with your past.  Its a trap that prevents you from living your best life.  You can do it.  Sometimes the best light for the journey is the result of a burning bridge...

A Better Me...

I can't tell you how many years I spent trying to make people like me.  I allowed myself to become extremely agreeable, funny, and nice for fear that the real me would cause them to run away.  I honestly believed that there was something wrong with me.

It's funny, when I turned 33, I decided that it was best to just be me.  I looked in the mirror and made a commitment to be true to myself.  I actually liked what I saw in my reflection.  I decided that I would no longer wear a mask or be the way people expected me to be.  I became comfortable in my own skin.  I learned that there was nothing wrong with being myself and whoever did not like me as I was was not meant to be in my life.

I can't tell you how ultimately freeing it was to just be myself.  To love myself without abandon.  To accept the things that are just "me."  At first, it was strange feeling this way.  Now, it is second nature.

When all else fails, do you.  What does that mean?  It means being true to yourself and accepting yourself as you are and not how you wish to be.  It means being present and not stuck in the past or the future.  Being one with who you are is a gift that most people never truly get.

When All Else Fails, Do You!!!

I can't tell you how many years I spent trying to make people like me.  I allowed myself to become extremely agreeable, funny, and nice for fear that the real me would cause them to run away.  I honestly believed that there was something wrong with me.

It's funny, when I turned 33, I decided that it was best to just be me.  I looked in the mirror and made a commitment to be true to myself.  I actually liked what I saw in my reflection.  I decided that I would no longer wear a mask or be the way people expected me to be.  I became comfortable in my own skin.  I learned that there was nothing wrong with being myself and whoever did not like me as I was was not meant to be in my life.

I can't tell you how ultimately freeing it was to just be myself.  To love myself without abandon.  To accept the things that are just "me."  At first, it was strange feeling this way.  Now, it is second nature.

When all else fails, do you.  What does that mean?  It means being true to yourself and accepting yourself as you are and not how you wish to be.  It means being present and not stuck in the past or the future.  Being one with who you are is a gift that most people never truly get. 

Loving Your Star Player...

 After years of disliking myself, I made a promise to myself as I turned 33 to live my life differently.  I was determined to love the person who was staring back at me in the mirror everyday.  As the days go by, I love me more and more.

Wouldn’t you know that as I put more love into myself, more love came my way.  After years of chasing a man who could have cared less, another man entered my life saying  that he liked me as is.  Did you hear me?  As is!!!  Although I am cautiously optimistic, I feel peaceful knowing no matter what happens, I will be fine.  I am going to keep loving myself regardless.

I have been wanting to write this post for a while because I feel like most people walk around everyday hating themselves.  They pick at every little thing they think is wrong with them and show themselves no love.   As a consequence, they are short tempered with everyone else and are pretty difficult to deal with all the time.

But loving yourself doesn’t have to be hard or fake.  It just is.  It’s about appreciating yourself for who you are, what you bring to the table, and letting your light shine.  It’s about being real with who you are and loving yourself no matter what you do.

When you love yourself, you will no longer stand for people treating you with anything less than respect.  You will not tolerate pettiness, mistreatment or abuse.  When you love yourself, you signal to others how to treat you.

I am a living witness to the power of self-love.  People actually treat me better today than they have at any other period in my life.  Loving myself allows others to love me as I am.  I am still a BIG Girl in the City and I am standing tall and looking good.

I challenge you to fall in love with yourself in 2012.  You too will see that loving yourself has beautiful effects!!!